What would your parents or other family members say if you brought home a person from a different race than yours and said you were in love with that person and thinking about marrying him or her?
I don’t think the initial problem would be the fact that the man I was bringing home was from another race. I think the problem would be that they had never heard about the person and I was thinking about marrying him. I am very close with my family and I think they would be more hurt by the fact I was hiding something that huge from them.
I grew up in a family that was around and accepted many different races. There was never a negative stigma towards anyone with different colored skin. As cliché as it sounds, we were truly taught to judge by character and not color.
However, I do think that there would be some concerns. The first problem my parents would have would be that the fact that it would just be hard. There are different cultural backgrounds that are often hard to mesh. Then when children are brought into the mix there are whole other sets of troubles that are added to the big picture.
I know that as a whole my family would definitely have some things to get use to. I know that their feelings would never stem from racism, but at the same time, there would be an awkward elephant in the room at first.
In the end if I were truly in love with a Godly man, and we both were certain that it was God’s will for us to get married… we would. And after my family observed our relationship and realized it was meant to be they would eventually accept it.
Yes, they would be concerned at first. But I have so much hope in all of them that if they knew it was what I wanted, and God’s will I would with out a doubt have their support.
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Excellent point about communicating with your family throughout the "getting-to-know-each-other" process. That would, no doubt, ease some of the initial tension perhaps.
ReplyDeleteYour emphasis on knowing God's will also is important.
Mike